Healing the Past to Love Differently with Tori Janay
Our relationships often reflect wounds we didn’t know we were carrying.
In this episode, I sit down with Tori Janay, a trauma-informed relationship and confidence coach, to explore how childhood experiences, generational trauma and early attachment patterns shape the way we love as adults. Tori shares her journey from surviving a traumatic upbringing to helping others heal, reclaim their voices and build healthier relationships.
Understanding Love Maps and Trauma
Tori introduces the concept of love maps — the unconscious relationship templates formed in childhood. These patterns influence how we give and receive love, often keeping us stuck in familiar dynamics until we become aware of them. Healing begins with understanding that the relationships we learned are not the only ones available to us.
Generational Trauma and Breaking Cycles
Generational trauma can show up as people-pleasing, hyper-independence or emotional shutdown. Tori explains how these patterns are passed down and how awareness allows us to interrupt them. Healing ourselves becomes a powerful way to change the future.
Healing the Whole Self
Combining psychology and energy healing, Tori’s approach addresses both the nervous system and emotional wounds. Trauma lives in the body as much as the mind. True healing empowers people to trust themselves rather than creating dependency.
Learning to Care for Yourself
For those who grew up caregiving or being “the strong one,” self-care can feel foreign. This episode reframes self-care as essential for healing and building healthier relationships.
This conversation offers insight, compassion and practical wisdom for anyone ready to heal old wounds and love differently.
🎧 Listen now to begin healing the past and creating healthier relationships.
Podcast Host/Founder of My Moody Monster
Jennifer is a single mom and entrepreneur who lives with Complex PTSD and Major Depressive Disorder from childhood trauma. Throughout her life, Jen has learned valuable coping skills and has made it her mission to help others to better understand their own emotions.
Jen has faced obstacles in her healing journey - from becoming a mother without a healthy parental model of her own to overcoming her inner saboteur while coping with the symptoms of CPTSD and Depression. She has spent the last 4 years developing My Moody Monster - a pull apart plush toy that has helped children to get out their frustrations in a safe way and giving families a tool to talk about emotions and communication.
Jen believes by sharing her own story she can help others to know they are not alone. Her YouTube channel features her Moody Talks focusing on an emotion each month and teaching coping skills that have helped her with her own mental health.
After being featured on multiple mental health and parenting podcasts, Jen had a powerful realization: her story of pushing away the hard work of facing her trauma was just one journey, and there are countless other journeys out there—each just as important and impactful. This is what inspired her to create "When Not Yet Becomes Right Now", a space for exploring the many different paths we take in life.
Motherhood, Healing and Raising Emotionally Literate Children with Jacintha Field
